10 Lessons I’ve Learned About Motherhood This Year
This year has been a whirlwind of emotions, challenges, and growth for me as a mother. From navigating full menopause to witnessing my sons step into their own independence, I’ve learned so much about myself, my parenting, and the transitions we all go through. Here are ten things I’ve learned about being a mother this year.
1. It’s Okay to Have Big Feelings About Big Changes
Watching my youngest prepare to finish college and my oldest move out has brought a tidal wave of emotions. I’ve learned that it’s okay to not feel okay about these changes. I raised them with all my heart, and while I celebrate their independence, I’m entitled to grieve the shifting dynamics in our relationship.
2. Loving My Kids Means Loving Who They’ve Become
I don’t just love my sons because they’re my children—I genuinely love the people they’ve grown into. Seeing them navigate adulthood with kindness, resilience, and strength has been one of the greatest joys of my life.
3. My Body Speaks My Truth
This year, I’ve become more attuned to how my body reflects my emotions. I’ve learned to pause, acknowledge how I’m feeling physically, and use that awareness to address my emotions. My body has become a powerful key to understanding myself.
4. I’m Allowed to Take Up Space
Menopause has been a journey I didn’t expect to be so transformative. I’ve learned to advocate for myself and ask for the treatment I need. I’ve also embraced openness about this stage in my life, breaking the silence and shame that often surrounds it.
5. I Can Do Hard and Scary Things
This year, I took a leap of faith and went back to graduate school to pursue an MFA in Prose Writing. I’ve also self-published my first picture book. These were dreams I once thought were impossible, but I’ve learned that I’m capable of doing the things that scare me.
6. Parenting Never Ends; It Evolves
My role as a parent looks different now, but my kids still need me—just in new ways. I’m learning to navigate this shift in our relationship, offering support and guidance without overstepping.
7. Second-Guessing Was Part of the Process
Looking back, I realize how much time I spent worrying and second-guessing myself as a parent. While it may not have been necessary, it came from a place of love. I now accept that I did my best with the help of my family, friends, and my village.
8. A Village Is Everything
I couldn’t have done it alone, and I’m forever grateful for the community that supported my sons and me through the years. From family to friends, and most importantly my husband, the village made all the difference.
9. My Voice and Experiences Matter
This year has taught me to trust my instincts and speak up. Whether it’s in parenting, my personal health, or my creative pursuits, I’ve learned that my experiences have value, and my voice deserves to be heard.
10. Motherhood is Ever-Changing, and So Am I
Parenting has been rewarding, exhausting, frustrating, and joyful. Now it’s evolving into something new. As my sons step into their futures, I’m also growing and stepping into mine. This new phase is a chance to redefine myself—not just as a mother, but as a woman, a writer, and a dreamer.
Motherhood has been the most challenging and rewarding journey of my life. This year reminded me that while my sons are still “adulting,” so am I. We’re all learning, growing, and finding our way together. And for that, I am deeply grateful.
What lessons has motherhood taught you this year? I’d love to hear your reflections. Let’s continue the conversation in the comments!